You could never bore me, beloved anon.
Despite the research, and the growing trend of people delaying or even forgoing marriage altogether, American culture and politics still haven’t caught up. Our government still promotes marriage through tax breaks and marriage promotion programs that go along with welfare reform, and our culture still disparages single moms and unmarried dads as bad — or at least not-as-good — parents. (Forget about if you identify as lesbian or gay — then marriage and kids are supposedly no-nos.)
But at the end of the day, a marriage contract isn’t what makes a family and it isn’t what makes good parents. You can have a relationship that models equality, partnership, love and compassion to your children whether you’re married or not. I’m not saying don’t get hitched before you have kids — if that’s how you’d like to do it, go for it! It’s the route I took, and it worked out wonderfully. But what works for me, or for some, may not work for everyone. And that’s fine. Not to mention, none of our business.” —Opinion columnist Jessica Valenti on parents’ marital status NOT hurting children. (via thedailyfeed)